The Twelve Steps
The Twelve Steps are the foundation of Egos Anonymous. They offer a practical, experiential path for noticing where self-will has taken over and for learning, again and again, how to loosen its grip. Rather than prescribing beliefs or behaviors, the Steps guide us toward honesty, willingness, and trust—helping us live with less fear, less control, and more openness to life as it is.
The Steps are not meant to be rushed or mastered. They unfold over time, often revisited as our lives change. Each step invites attention rather than perfection, and each one builds on the last.
We admitted that we were powerless over our self-protection and need for control.
We came to trust that Reality itself was already holding us, and that by relaxing our grip, we could be brought back into balance.
We made a decision to turn our will and our lives away from fear-driven control and toward Love.
We made a careful and honest examination of the stories, roles, and strategies we had used to protect ourselves.
We admitted to ourselves, to another human being, and to a Reality greater than ourselves the exact nature of these patterns.
We became entirely ready to let go of our attachment to identities that once helped us survive, but now limit our freedom and connection.
We humbly asked for the grace to loosen our need to be right or in control, and began to trust that who we truly are does not need defending.
We made a list of all persons harmed by our self-protection and became willing to make amends to them all.
We made direct amends where possible, except when doing so would cause harm.
We continued to notice when self-will reclaimed the center, and we returned again and again to humility, curiosity, and compassion.
We sought, through Silence and attention, to let our will relax into what had been holding us all along, and to receive the strength to live from there.
Having tasted moments of spiritual awakening through these steps, we practice returning to love—both giving it and allowing ourselves to receive it.